OK so today we had a meeting with - Social services - My therapist - Kids Therapists - WAS therapist - WAS - School representatives
Subject : Social services provide support to families falling apart in order to "protect the interests of the children" It is a forum to allow all the people involved to share information about the care of the children and prevent chinese whispers ( i.e. he said she said misunderstandings) Ein Gezin = One Face One Family
What happened : 1. I did not fall apart in tears this time
2. I stated clearly that I did not wish that my WAW corner me about our problems any more during the sports evenings with the children at work. WAW was unhappy about it saying that she did not have any other way she could discuss about the children and other issues. My reply was that if needed we can arrange an appointment but that it was inappropiate to address these issues which caused me to break down in tears at my workplace.
3. Kids are doing great at school and no problems at all.
4. Again encouraged by all that I should seek help to accept that we are getting divorce.
My take with a DB perspective: --------------------------------- 1. I managed to face my WAW without breaking down (is this a 180 ???) 2. I managed to state clearly a boundary (is this a 180 ???) 3. WAW feels vindicated in her descision by kids good grades and being told that I should just accept it. 4. I don't see much room/evidence for hope or what more 180s I need to do that can help. 5.Acceptance therapy I think would at least give me the tools to put on a brave face to the situation.
It helps writing it down and having comments from another perspective.
