W did identify one of the main sources of her unhappiness. She said she never felt like I was proud to be seen with her. Which is crazy in a way because I think my wife is beautiful (and for better or worse so do a lot of other people), and I have always loved that a good looking magnetic charismatic person like her was my "better half" and that people knew it when were out together. I guess the problem was that I didn't arrange those outings with her enough myself. Very infrequently. I have been very neglectful in that regard. No denying that. I think in my mind I was trying not to smother her or make her feel like I thought I owned her...

So, I know that if we were to start piecing I would need to take her out once a week and make all the arrangements myself. That's what she needs to feel special.

H: 43
W: 37
M: 11 years
T: 12 years
S: 11
D: 8
ILYBINILWY, "I want to move out" and "I want a divorce": 3/23/14
MC started: 9/22/14
Affair and past infidelity discovered: 9/26/14
Piecing: 10/20/14