You NEED to GAL. Don't get stuck in finding the perfect activity. Just do SOMETHING. It doesn't have to be super exciting. Do you exercise? Many of us have found that regular exercise is a huge life saver. Yoga is also awesome. If you can't plan a girls' night, plan a girls' lunch, or coffee, or a walk. Or just do it with one of your friends. Doesn't have to be a big group and a big party. Find things you like to do on your own. Take a class. Volunteer somewhere. You will never get unstuck if you don't GAL.

It is extremely difficult to drop the expectations. It's a practice. Every time you catch yourself with an expectation, just give yourself a gentle reminder - no expectations.

Same with thinking about the past or guessing what the future holds. Right now you are in a place where you need to live one day at a time, one foot in front of the other. Focus on the here and now. When you find yourself thinking about the past or future, refocus your thoughts to the present. There is no magic way to do this, you just have to keep at practicing, and it will (very slowly) become easier.

You are only stuck in limbo if you let yourself be. Get moving! smile


me: 44 XH: 42
M 11 years
D10 and S8
Bomb drop 9/27/13
D final 7/1/14