living with WAW who hasn't walked yet (3)

[tough spot]

Well its out in the open now....... I don't know how you knew all the details you have stated in your posts but I would assume spying of some sort? That definitely will hurt you in the long run if that is the case (I know this from experience :)) If not from that, I can't imagine knowing that stuff and not eventually talking about it. So I wouldn't be beating yourself up over that one.

I have seen the word addiction used when people talk about spouses having an affair. It does seem to fit. As a recovering addict myself, I can definitely see the road to justification being used by these 'addicts'.

As an addict, if the comparison holds, I can tell you that nothing will keep me from using unless I make the decision to stop and ask for help as well. No logic, no emotional pleas, nor anything else will keep me from doing the very thing that taints the rest of my life.

Anyway, that was a bit of rambling there. I guess I am just reiterating what others have said.....hang on because there is nothing that you can do. Good luck sir!