Did she give examples or situations where she felt you put her second? Or did she need to give details about it?

If you knew you were drinking more than she wanted you to, does that mean she had expressed her feelings about it in the past?

Now you have,quit drinking and she has started. Anything else that has changed about her you have noticed?

Besides weight loss and stopping the drinking, what other improvements have you made?

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!