Barrybran - Yet Another Thread

[Barrybran]

That's confusing. I want my wife here at home and I want things to improve between us. I don't think I should have to deal with confusion and arguments in my day-to-day life because she is choosing to stay this time and is unwilling to communicate effectively. I've tried to adopt a mindset of what I'd do if we were living in separate houses. I won't put up with poor communication if we were in different houses or divorced; I would go it alone and make my own decisions and let her deal with the consequences.

All things considered, I feel good about how this has turned out. despite my wife being more pissed off with me. My wife has finally created the cleaning/cooking roster she spoke of two months ago and I'm happy with that. I don't know what is too much housework or not enough housework. If I'm supposed to do something on Tuesday and I don't, then I deserve to get my bum kicked. If I hold up my end then she has no right to complain.

She also changed her name back to her maiden name on Facebook. Safe to say I'll be getting a few messages from friends and family today. I apologise to friends and family in advance (figuratively) for my non-response.

I just got this too:

What you have in front of you is a quick mock up of a roster of sorts. Obviously dependant on work hours etc. If there is something I've missed note it down and we can discuss it. Yes I am still very very very very much pissed iff at you for last week's transgression. It cemented to ne I cannot trust you and that you think this is all a joke to be laughed about.

I am the only one actually going about my business trying to make my own life and balance of kids. You still seem to be dependent on my opinion or what not in relation to your actions (outside that of our issues). Make your own decisions. If it's about the kids/household that's a discussion we both need to have. If it's about your personal life, thats your department. But if it's anything to do with issues between us, then that certainly is most definitely between us and only us. It's not something to be discussed or laughed about with your boss or complete strangers. Go find yourself. Because you won't find the answers with me.

I'm finally feeling more like me. The me that I seem to have lost along the way. I can and will stand up for myself and the kids.
I kept the marriage going for months and months thinking I could nake things better. But no. In the end I needed to stand up to you and see what I was doing was trying to carry your [censored] and my [censored] together and in the end I could not bear it anymore. It's up To you to work on Yourself. I've told you the things that you've said and done to make this marriage end.

I know my issues are partly to blame. I take ownership of that and that's exactly what I am doing now. I am fixing me. I am fixing myself so I do not ever make the same mistakes I have made in our marriage and in my life for any future I may have. Do the same.

I cannot be friends with you right now because I am carrying a lot of hatred towards you. Until I can let that go please stop looking to me for anything else other than co-parenting.