Mr. Bond is correct in that you are still focusing way too much on your h and trying to find a way to control him, i.e., like the car deal.
If you and the children want to go to the movies, then go. Nothing says your h has to go every time you go somewhere. Learn to be more independent and not so afraid to try something new. You do realize that no matter what you say or do, he could very well become an angry man. Learn to live your life for you and your kids. He certainly is enjoying his w/his so called friend.
You can't leave messages for people on this particular site. I've been here for a long time and it's not been activated.
Keep the focus on you, your goals and your children. Leave him to his own undoing.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
