I'm not concerned about the OM except for any contact he might have with my children. They are still vunerable as we have only separated just over two months and it would be too much for them to encounter mummys 'boyfriend' at such an early stage in things. I told her last week I didn't care what she did as long as it didn't adversely effect the boys and I meant that. I believe them meeting any other man in her life at this stage is much to soon and would have an adverse effect. If that happens I will make it very clear that it is unacceptable. It's not about me being jealous, although I would be lying if I said I wasn't, but I now completely understand the need to give up control, especially things I have no control over. But I do have the right to protect my sons from any more hurt and I intend to do that. My intention is to let her do as she pleases, but not at their expense, this is something I am not prepared to compromise on.
