my wife left, but still lives with me #3/continued

[ericmsant2]

I respond with Sunday 8am through Wed am drop off to school, same breaks, equals 184, or 50/50.

Can you really do this? What are you going to do if they need to miss school? What about school closings?

However I think she has a slight edge on me with the taking them to school/being involved with conferences etc.

Stop thinking of it in terms of “edge” and start thinking of it in terms of what is best for them.

Being a 50/50 parent is not easy buddy. You need to be prepared to answer questions like…what will you do if they are sick, what about parent teacher conferences, etc. So please have your ducks in a row.

Based on your post you seem to be operating in fear. Stop it.

Contact your attny and find out what they suggest are the next steps.

Find out what your attny feels are the best chances for you to secure what you want.

I am not a fan of how they reiterated my wife's thoughts, like 'we are more comfortable with mom taking us to school because that is what we are used to' and 'dad, you are more of the weekend guy'. Sometimes during these kinds of cases, aren't the children asked questions? I don't like the idea of her planting the 'correct' answers in their head.

Bottom line, the dynamics in the family have changed. When you and your w were together it may have made sense for her to take the kids to school. Now it does not. As for the kids asking questions, it is normal. You need to assure them that this is not their fault and that, they you and their mom will figure out what is best for them. Reiterate that neither of you are leaving them. As for what your W may be saying to them…I hear you loud and clear – there is nothing you can do about it.

Keep me posted on what the attny says.