Yes... I purposely typed "included, his Saturday"... I was included into his date night with my daughter. I knew that it was HIS term (not a date)... but, I accepted knowingly. To see what I was like, to see what I can handle. Glad my DD was there for damage control. I was a little too happy she said. 7/10. So, need to take it back a few notches. Let him create the convo's, let him approach & come to me more.
He called a little while ago, asking if he should pick up coffee and if I was going to work. I declined, as I am into a project and deep into it. He can't expect me to drop my priorities. Mixed messages (get work done/ social with him). I did not give any attitude when declining, just matter of fact.
Eric, THANK YOU for new mind set...' I WILL NOT ACCEPT ANY CRUMBS FROM ANYONE – I KNOW WHO I AM AND I KNOW WHAT I WANT. I KNOW WHAT I AM WORTH AND I WILL NOT SETTLE FOR LESS.'.... Im not sure that all his coffees are crumbs all the time. I do know that he is trying... his way. (keeping his options open).
I agree that it will take TIME for me to establish my new system. I need to remind myself OFTEN to refocus and put the fcous back onto me... really tough to do, but am determined.
Thanks for your advice & tips.... Please continue to check in on me and keep holding me accountable. THX!!!
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
