You're not asking her to come back to the M. It's just a couple of hours with the kids. You can't control what she does afterwards.
You're still trying to control things. Unfortunately having an OM is part of the way life is and if you get D'd it's something you will have to deal with.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.