Thanks for the encouragement! I was so pissed this morning I was ready to file for divorce, which is new for me. Do people stand and file for their own divorce? Logically I cannot do it right now - there are too many unknowns. The unknowns are: he is in danger of losing his job, my company is being bought out and I find out this fall if I have a job, my family moving to help me, his possible lawsuit, and I don't want his new bottom feeder trailer trash friends around my kids. I also do not want to upset my kids. At this point he started us down this road - he can finish it. He seems pretty determined to get a divorce after his work situation is complete, but that could be awhile. For his work trouble it is to his advantage that we are married and I believe he is just friends with OW, or he would be fired and if it goes to court could perjure himself.
One of my friends suggested that I ask him to always drive car even when he carpools with OW. I don't think I want that because she is so uncomfortable when she comes over. She does not get out of the car and is always trying to avoid eye contact - looking at floor of car. I also don't want to give him the power that she bothers me. Right now he thinks I believe they are just friends - if I knew anything else he would be fired. So should I tell him to always park at her house?
Also, the kids have been wanting to go to a movie. I want to take them this weekend but he works. I am trying hard to GAL - but I don't want to peeve him off in the process, as he has a bad temper and retaliates. Should I say nothing and take the kids to the movie? Ask if he wants to go and then plan as a family event on his day off? Tell him that we are going to the movie? I know there is a lot of thought in this. But if I do the wrong thing he will go monster and start using the kids, which we have been able to avoid.
It is so hard to stand and detach at times. Some moments I am good and giddy, and others I cannot move and am crying my eyes out. Thanks for all the strength that everyone is giving me! It really helps!1!
I got some bad news today. My friend of 20 years that has been with me since the beginning of this nonsense, knew me before I met my husband is terminal. I came home crying for work, and of course H had to know what was up. I told him and he said he has been sick for so long, why did it take so long to catch. No I'm sorry, no hug, no I know this is difficult. He was a butt and very cold! How can someone that would do anything for me 6 months ago be such a mean person? UGH
