my wife left, but still lives with me #3/continued

[ericmsant2]

Tough

I have a hearing on May 6th for 'temporary custody, child support, and parenting time'. This is a shocker. We had discussed coming up with a temporary custodial agreement ourselves, getting it ratified by the courts, and proceeding on with the divorce.

Sorry to hear that dude. Now that she has taken this path, I think you need to go dark. No more conversations.

I am going to have to talk to her about this tonight/tomorrow and ask why the change.

I would not talk to her about it. Why? She has already spoken via the letter your received from the court.

So she thinks I am a good father but she is a better mother and doesn't think 50/50 is in the best interests of the kids. Man does that hurt.

She can think all she wants. What matter is what a judge will say. Most states are now coming around and 50/50 is become much more of the standard.

I am in a panic as I think she qualifies more as the 'primary care giver' than I do and I will lose when it goes to court.

First off, don’t panic. Why do you think she qualifies more as the primary care giver? If you keep saying you are going to lose, then chances are you will. DB101 – Stay Positive!

Haven't talked to my lawyer about it yet but I think that is the way it will go.

WTF are you waiting for? Get on the phone with your L.

AAARRRgggghhhh. I am so screwed here. I think those are her real feelings, that she thinks the kids will be better off spending more time with her and custody not being equal. I just don't know. She says we need to come up with something we can agree on before the trial date of may 6th. I think db'ing is over as I don't see how any reconciliation can come after such a divisive issue as child custody.

They may be her real feeling but she does not get to decide who the kids stay with. If the two you cannot agree then it is judge. As for db’ing…right now you need to resolve the parenting sitch first.

Do you have a plan that you can present? If so, what is it?