new here. is DB even worth it?

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He may not be feeling the same consequences that you are but he WILL feel the consequences, if not right now then later on.

This particular situation I'd personally let go, your emotion is what's driving you (anger, frustration, resentment) and not your head - you need to choose your battles carefully, have you read the DR book I can't remember if you have?

I know it's sooo hard but try to keep the focus on YOU and not him, every time you think of him try to bring the focus back to yourself & your D.