The main reason I was asking is because I've learned that creating some serious space with my H has helped me (immensely) send the message that I might already have one foot out of our "marital door." And it happened rather quickly.
I was saying as recently as last week that H knows he always has a heart to come home to. Now - after a week of going as dark as possible with kids involved - not only do I feel H has to be questioning whether he could lose me ... but I'm questioning whether I'd want him back if he ever decided to come home. And I'm just now getting started!
It's amazing what time without seeing/hearing from them will do. It still hurts, but it helps with perspective.
You're in a crappy situation, though, and probably not as easily able to distance yourself from her for now. The "friendly neighbor" approach is good.
But this?:
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She has told others she knows she could come back if she wanted to
I know you have it in you to make her question that.
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014
