I agree with you. I haven't been giving the "I'll always be here for you, no matter what" But my W does know how much I care. I think it's just a matter of projecting consistent actions that send a consistent message that I don't want this, but I am moving on
I'm not sure what her "realization point" will be, or if it even ever occurs, but at some point, I imagine I will hit one of them, and then I may have some decisions to make on my own, should she decide to end A and try to work on marriage.
Just going to keep working on sending that consistent message of I'm moving on with or without you. She knows the boundaries I have set that would encompass "with her" , Up to her to meet those if we move forward together. Tricky to do
