It doesn't mean you have to break your vows, Dev, nor take the saving of your family less seriously. It's just that there's a HUGE difference between projecting "I'll always be here for you, no matter what" and "I don't want a divorce, and while this isn't the path I would have chosen for me OR the kids, I realize now that we'll be okay regardless of what happens."
Your wife needs to understand that at some point, you are moving on, and that she may be losing you if she wants to continue the path that she's on. She may or may not then turn back, but I can guarantee you that if she DOESN'T credibly fear losing you, she WON'T turn back.
