If she moves back to the house, hopefully there's a separate entrance to the basement.
And while this might be best for your family financially, your family's emotional health isn't the concern of your "team." How do you think this will affect your son who is still at home. That should be your concern.
You also talk about strategies. DB isn't about strategies, it's about changing you, and right now that would be LRT and going dark. Going dark is to allow you time to take control of you, to become more responsive and less reactive.
You can't get her out of her "fog", make her love you, change her mind, that's all under her control. You only control you.
I have not replied to any of her texts etc since she left. I don't want to control or manipulate her in anyway I just want to show her how much I love her!
Also, I have a question, she and my older son are supposed to meet this comming Sunday. She wants to drive up and back in one day. It's five hours each way.m she asked me to go with her to share driving responsibilities, and who knows why else ?
I have had three different opinions,
1)Go with her it's five hours each way to reconnect without arguing or even talking. 2)Don't go with her it's her problem not yours, she's fired you as a husband. 3)Do what's in your heart, it won't effect your marriage or her whether you do or not, it's all about what you want.
