Thanks Forever. To hear her say she read something I wrote but then describe me saying things I've never even thought, let alone would write and instead of saying something to me just got angry and stayed that way for months really upset me. Here I am trying my best to give her space, be nice even in the face of her awful behavior and she not only projects these things onto me but uses it to feel justified in even worse behavior. All the hard work I've been doing for months and here she decides to ascribe all these awful thoughts about her to me. It was a blow!
She says she's in pain but is just going to "try" being on her own as a way to be happy. Why is that going to make her happy? Yes, I know logical thinking! This is so hard because I've been trying so dang hard to do the right things and all this time she was judging me from one thing she read and read things into it that weren't even there!
She doesn't want me talking to my kids but they aren't stupid and know things aren't right. She thinks by telling our 14 year old she isn't sleeping in our bedroom because I snore is fooling her! They too are in pain. They too see what she is doing and are hurt by it. Does she really think just not saying anything and pretending all is well the one day we sit them down and tell them mom is moving away is a better way to go?
I want to not be angry. I want to see her as someone in pain but she makes it so hard by denying the truth, changing history and using events from 20 years ago that she knows still shame me makes that so hard!
Thank you for responding. I needed to hear a calm voice get back to me! Many thanks!
