Kat, I don't know, honestly. Nipping in the bud had to have happened 24 years ago when I wasn't someone who could do that. Now it feels like bickering, and making things worse, to try to do anything about it in the moment. It feels healthier to me to just not engage in it.
I do hate the idea that my kids will pick it up. I considered talking about Gma a little in the car, but in the past something that really irritated me wasn't even noticed by them and their response to my commentary makes me feel like I'm now the one criticizing someone behind their back.
My current stance is to model kinder interaction and be glad H is out of the house, but that very soft approach does sometimes feel unassertive and possibly could end up having been ineffective.
Over 24 years I've been conditioned if I object to what's going on I'm the problem...I'm bickering, I have no sense of humor, I'm picking an argument, I'm a sourpuss.
"i have nothing bad to say" was the best I could come up with for this time.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
