Matt, you are trying to analyze her crises with a logical mind. Stop that, you will drive yourself nuts!
She is in pain and searching for ways to fix it. She doesn’t know what she wants, except for the pain to go away. She’s having major life regrets, and sees time running out to fix it. So expect her to bounce around as she attempts to find answers.
Be the steady rock in her life. The one who confidently took care of himself and his family. Now’s your chance to live a more meaningful life of purpose. Do this and she WILL notice.
Your job is to show her you understand she’s in pain and believe she will get through this difficult period in her life. If you REALLY LISTEN to her, and support her, she is more likely to not run from you.
She loved you for all those years, and at some level still does. Let go and allow her to do what she needs to do to figure herself out.
I know it’s difficult, but please don’t take her rejection of you personally. She’s really not doing this TO you, she’s doing it FOR her.
Watching her spin is a waste of your time. Focus on more on yourself and you will find it gets easier.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
