I didn't really understand the grill thing to be honest.
Just Lost being all hip....lol
Interchange "grill" , with "face"....
I.E. = all up in her business..
Originally Posted By: Barry
I can see how the Facebook thing can be misconstrued as pursuing. It was an honest compliment and I chose the wrong forum.
The communication thing stumps me though. From what you've written, I'm on the right track. I could have better worded my offer of keeping cash available for the service. I know that my wife didn't explicitly take me up on that offer though. This kind of thing happens a lot. She thinks it's sorted, I think it still needs to be sorted, she gets impatient when I try to sort it and making assumptions is a dangerous road to travel. So where do I go from here with communication? It has to be resolved.
Most of this (from what I read), can be resolved with what we started talking about last week..
Start focusing on what YOU want, how YOU interact, and to leave her alone with her own stuff.
I feel that you are still focusing way too much on what she is doing and not enough on what you are doing.
Like I said earlier...
Stop allowing her to dictate YOUR life to you....
No one single action is going to make, or break you right now.
You HAVE to stop trying to fix this marriage.
As far as the communication ???
No matter how much, or how little you communicate with her, her's will always be limited coming back to you.
She is going to twist things, and turn things to be in her favor no matter how clear it is from the start.
And you allowing her to twist your shorts, is only hurting you.
She wants her "independence" Barry....
The best thing to do ? Is to give it to her...all of it...
Her car breaks down ???
Sorry, I hope that you can work that out....
You need dental work ???
Sorry, I hope you can get an appointment...
The kids need shoes ??
Okay, I will take them on Saturday, and I will leave you the receipt, and you can reimburse me 50%....
(that ^^^ is concise, clear, and leaves NO room for mis-understandings)
She wants freedom ???
Give it to her, and for right now...
Focus on the relationships in your life that fulfill you...
