YE hit it right on the nose man....You definitely need to STFU!!! Around your wife, about your wife to friends and co-workers....Pretty much everywhere. It is time to go DIM, give her tons of space, and focus on you.
As for the communication....For first post on the car repair had me thinking you were covering the expense. You want a good drill for wife....When it is something that HAS to be discussed;
Discussing issue x,y,z-
Either person- We need to discuss x,y, z
You- "What are your feelings on x,y,z" Wife- Expressess Her feelings on x,y,z YOU LISTEN You- "So I heard you correct, this is how you feel we should handle x,y,z"...then reiterate Wife-Acting impatient as your are repeating back to her what you heard....I suggest changing the wording You- Either you agree with how she wants to handle it, tell her you agree and end conversation or you explain to her your feelings with words like I and me....No you to her...Explain your view Then...and only then do you compromise.
Once again....get out of her grill all the time. To clarify...being in another room while focused on her in the other room is not getting out of her grill.
