I think I belong here #2

[praying_in_GA]

So, let me ask you this. Is a live in or true separation better when it comes to saving the marriage?

H was talking about if he moved he would really only have his brother's house to go to since he doesn't have a job. I asked him what HE preferred to do. He said he would rather stay in my house. (He calls it my house since I pay the bills. I have told him it is our house but he likes this word game) He said that living in the house is awkward at times and he feels like it is preventing me from moving on as quickly as I would without him there. But, he said it is easier for him to be with the kids and to help me with the kids. He can pick them up from gym or run errands for us easier. As a bonus for him, it is also closer to his school and I have kick butt internet. His brother's house is an hour away from him school and since they live in the middle of the woods their internet is crap.

Anyway, I am feeling quite strong today. I am ready to go home and make the best of my life. I am ready to show him how amazing I am and if he chooses to leave he is the one losing out. Then I started googling separation and most articles talk about true separation as opposed to live in.

My dream is to have this whole situation end in a strong, amazing marriage that will finally stand the test of time. Of course how long this will take is not my choice but I want to make the right decisions for me, the kids, and H.