The "I'm ready to come home" I am confident meant that she is ready to be back in her home, not move back in with me.
What I find interesting is in the past spending 4 days in Chicago would not have been enough. She always has enjoyed traveling and now at the end of her last two work trips she mentioned being ready to come back (to her house). I never thought she would even express those feelings, especially now that we are separated.
Maybe now that she has experienced the freedom she thought she was missing when we were together, it is not as sweet as it seemed. That green grass may have been an illusion.
HollyAnn, thanks for the kind words about my progress and my work on handling the situation.
You're very welcome!
She has already noticed that you're looking good and are GAL. She wouldn't have gotten so pissy about these changes if she didn't care even a little. This is why I think you should not invite her for Easter. This is an opportunity for her to experience missing an important day with the family. You show her the reality of a D and the effect it has on everyone.
Now all you have to do is muster all your strength and apply what you've learned. And keep expectations very low.
If she really does want to reconcile, this is one of the quickest turn-arounds I've seen. Most LBS spend too much time in paralysis because they're spinning, can't grab the reins because they're too scared of making WAS mad, etc. Understandable, but not helpful.
