One year in but a newbie

[bluesgal]

Life-
I don't have great advice for the question posted, but agree with what your DB coach told you from experience. I think that's why there is a constant push/pull feeling at least in my current relationship. It seems his actions are warmer at times-like he really enjoys my company, but will pull away if he gets too close. I agree with giving the opposite reaction than is expected. It proves their deranged opinion of you, wrong.

As far as LRT technique with kids, you can research the archives here as that question is a common one. It seems like a form of 'going dim' is what people do. Only communicate when communicated with etc. Make sure to always stay friendly and upbeat. A lot of us can mistake LRT, going dim/dark as being distant and aloof with our spouse.