You will get there tld, and praying_in_georgia. We all will.

H can't look at me either. GUILT. And ditto what you said above, tld. Exactly. And I know exactly what it's like to be HER right now. He was so good to me back then. <Sigh>

We won't have a nervous breakdown if we keep rebuilding our own lives. It's hard work sometimes, but I feel like I have run right past him now (while all he did for 10 months is wallow in self-pity). And literally -- I've run right past him. I've been running again while he proceeded to gain about 10 pounds. Ha.


Me 53, XH 57
M 20 (+1.5) years, no kids
BD June '13
H moved out July '13
Confirmed long-suspected PA Feb '14
H filed for D Nov. '14
D March '15