Thanks job and tld for the wise words and encouragement. I do still love him -- hard to believe, but I do -- so I can do the 'limbo' a bit longer. Finances are ok for now, and he is currently not paying any rent at his sister's. He spends a bit more these days, of course (but not on ME). To me, divorce is the end. I know that's what it is to him too. I have seen an attorney, and I feel very comfortable with him. I plan to be cooperative because I don't want this to get ugly, but I don't plan to do much work myself. I will handle myself with grace and take the high road. More than I can say for him. I will get through this in one piece. I think I have already gotten through the worst of it by now. There will be challenges ahead, but not like there were in the weeks following bomb drop. I don't wish that heartache on anyone...


Me 53, XH 57
M 20 (+1.5) years, no kids
BD June '13
H moved out July '13
Confirmed long-suspected PA Feb '14
H filed for D Nov. '14
D March '15