Your head was clear until you spent the day as a family. Now you are confused again and thinking about Easter.

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I'm really torn here as its a difficult time with the Easter break coming up and the boys are looking forward to it and we always made a big deal of Easter and went on many day trips and made the most of our time off work.


But that was in the past. That was when you had a healthy M. You do not have one now. ( You may have one in the future if you play your cards right. ) In the meantime, If you try to do the same things as you did before she became a wayward wife, it won't work. If you use your kids as an excuse to continue these activities, it still won't work. And that is what you are doing........using them for your excuse and saying you don t want to disappoint them. I see this happen all the time with LBH'S. But why would she try to change her mind if she can have family and vacation like always? What has she lost? NOTHING!

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It basically means we will be doing separate things with them which leaves me without them at certain key times over the holidays which will really get to me as I hate being apart from them
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More excuses. If you get D you will be doing things separately and giving up time with the boys.

Bottom line is you can't go both directions at the same time! If you are in LRT.......then you have to stick with it. You can't play one big happy family on weekends and go back to LRT weekdays and expect her to change her mind. Before this past weekend, you were talking about being detached. You sure aren't detached and won't be as long you find some reason to be with her.

But, this is your life......not mine. I am just here trying to help you. I am giving as clear guide lines as I know how. It is up to you to decide if you want to see them or not. Sometimes, a newcomer just searches from post to post asking advice from other members until he finds one that will tell him what he wants to hear. I'm not that person, as you see. I tell you how it is.

The LRT can work, but it takes time and consistency. She will have to try her different tricks and see they won't change your direction. When she faces what she has lost due to waywardness, and if she wants to R, then she will get serious about it. But she hasn't reached that place yet.

This is not her reaching out. This her crooking her finger.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!