She left - 3

[gogofo]

I have been reading other threads on here and now again I am undecided about what to do for Easter.

The day is scheduled to be split, I have the kids in the morning and she will pick them up sometime in the afternoon.

I had planned on extending an invitation for the W to come over and watch the kids hunt for Easter eggs. If the accepted or not that would be her decision but it would not change what I was going to do.

Now after reading sandi2's comments on AndyK's thread I have began to think I should maybe change what I am going to do.

I think that maybe I should just go on with my plans of Easter activities but not extend an invitation to the W.

The reason being sandi2's advice of the W needing to see how things would be if we did D. I think I originally thought that if she did come and watch the kids she would be see what she would be missing. Now I think that maybe she should miss it and see what the D life would be like.

I have not pulled back or refused an invitation to do anything at all. The only exception being the non responded to text messages from last night and one evening while I dropped off the kids she wanted to talk schedule and I took off because I had plans.

Right now she probably knows that I will be here for her, I have not showed her anything different. What she hasn't been shown is what it would be like if she lost me and I got on with my life without her.

Lately I have been walking the walk about limited contact and all the other DB, GAL things I have going. It feels like my way of life now. But when things like Easter come up it feels like playing chess trying to figure out which move to make.

I don't know if my non response to her first two text messages last night prompted the "Do you think we are fixable" message or if it was just coincidence.

I am sure my opinion on Easter's plan of action will change after Thursday night. We have a scheduled dinner/kid swap evening. The last two we had she initiated R talks so I talked with her. I assume she will bring it up again, especially after the text message. I want to have thought this through and stick with a plan that seems to be the best course of action.

I get to familiar and safe around her when we are together. We have a stronger connection, it seems, now after BD than the months prior. It is hard not too take these feelings and run with them instead of letting her dictate the pace. I have not flubbed on initiating the R talk stuff since starting DB and don't plan to. I just don't know whether to extend an invite so we are like a "family" on Easter or leave her out of it so we are like a D family.