Nothing but her true love and patience when I was losing my mind could have possibly made my heart, mind, and soul wake up
Yet you said it was when she was finally done on V day and stopped trying is what woke you up. All her efforts in the M did nothing to shake you. It was when you saw her stop.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!