I think I belong here #2

[Georgiabelle]

Praying,

I removed my h as my husband and unfriended him. Why? This man isn't my husband. He doesn't live here . I rarely speak to him. And he behaves nothing like a husband. How do I feel about this now ? Pretty gosh darn good. I'm not completely detached, however, I am getting there. Remember, I know you want to save your m but this is your h now. He isn't "switching" back anytime soon.

I know it's difficult, however your h does sound like he is sharing his feelings with you (even though they seem a little wacky). Having more intimacy and frequent sex with your h isn't going to turn this around. If you do that, he will just pick another issue. (I'm sorry if I'm hijacking) The intimacy issue was what I thought was the major issue in our m. I was positive of it. Wrong! Once we started working on that h said the real issue was that I wasn't committed (3 kids and 12 years). Then it was I didn't tell him EXACTLY how much I made (he did the taxes for 9 years and said he never really " looked" at what I made). Then it was that I didn't support him (he only worked a total of around 4 years of our m)etc. I knew this was him and not me when he started tearing up about traffic one night and blamed me. He said I had driven by 3 hours earlier and should have known traffic would be bad. I know this sounds crazy and many others have similar stories. Your h will just keep adding to the list. Soon it will be that you never wore green shirts or that you never learned to play the drums.

That's why everyone says keep the focus on you. You can listen and validate your h. However, this is his deal. That's why it's so important for you to detach and focus on you and the kids. Don't let his deal make you put your life on hold. You cannot do that! You deserve to enjoy every minute of your life and your kids are only this age once. It's a true statement that you didn't break him so you can't fix him.

Detach. Forget FB, Twitter, flickr, tumbler and snapchat. Focus on you and the kids.