MrBond, you have hit on something I have been wondering about in my own sitch. I wonder if you could help me out with that. I don't want to hijack her post but it has the same issues.

How exactly do we improve some of these issues when the improvement would go against DBing? For instance, lack of intimacy or lack of communication.

Me: 33 / H: 36
M: 10y / T: 14y
3 kids
BD: 2/22/14
Live in separation 3/8/14
H consult lawyer, says filing asap 4/24/14
H moved out 4/25/14
2nd time around. 1st separation 4y ago lasted a month