Okay, so of course H started talking last night. I sit and listen and add things here and there. Here are a few of his gems:

-He wants a fresh start from this life.
-He flirts a lot and feels/felt that was disrespectful to me/our marriage. There is no one woman I should be worried about...I should be worried about everyone because he sees many women as interesting. They draw his attention and that is when he realized he needed to step back.
-He is worried about the kids and he wants to be a good father.
-He is not interested in trying to be with me at this time.
-If I were to file he would sign. He is fine with me filing. He doesn't want to file on his own.
-He wants me to go sleep with someone else so I can mentally separate from him.
-He has built up an emotional wall to block himself from feeling anything for me.
-He says heartbreak is the worst feeling ever and he hates that he is causing it in me.
-He says that I would be a great friend and he does hope that we will end up being friends.
-He says he hopes one day I will be in love with another man and look back to realize I didn't love him as much as I thought I did.
-He said he was happy to see me being strong today and telling him I didn't ask for his opinion. He said he was proud of me because I need to let him go.
-He said he wants to take a true break from the marriage to see how he feels about his life.
-He said he needs at least 6 months of separation.
-He said he doesn't want to sleep around but he would like to see what it is like to date another woman.
-He said he's not on a quest to feel younger but that he needs his life to change. (I had to stop myself from laughing out loud at this one)
-He said if he were to continue to live as he has been he would look back with regret.


Me: 33 / H: 36
M: 10y / T: 14y
3 kids
BD: 2/22/14
Live in separation 3/8/14
H consult lawyer, says filing asap 4/24/14
H moved out 4/25/14
2nd time around. 1st separation 4y ago lasted a month