He complained of abandonment for 10 years. 10 years ago would be after honeymoon period ended. My therapist says it is often in these cases that they start complaining things went bad 2 or 3 years after marriage started, and to not believe it as it is the blame game. Also, 10 years ago we started working opposite shifts in preparation for having kids, so to not use daycare. I would NOT recommend working opposite shifts to anyone no matter how strong the marriage is. I also have a lifetime illness where I can have nausea and/or diarrhea, because of this I would say no to intimacy at times. It was too much for H to handle. First he could not handle the illness and could not handle hearing no sometimes. Other things are that I am indecisive, I twitch my legs always, and he was coming last. He went into a tail spin last summer when our youngest started school. It was 7 years he had a kid to take care of in the mornings, and he did not know what to do. He went into full blown depression, but would not go to dr or for IC. Instead he is going thru MLC and choosing new bottom feeders for friends and OW is in this group.
