Spouse tried I didn't, now opposite

[whytry]

I get so frustrated at times! W gone all day doing a favorite activity. I take care of kids, kids and I pick up house, I do laundry hers from mud run, kids, and mine, I feed our children, and put away dishes. She starts several conversations and I participate for what is required. Last conversation of another obstacle course type of activity she wants to do, I say they're isn't any reason we can't afford it, and she blatantly points out there is no us so don't worry about it. If I'm not supposed to worry about it or help her afford the activity why even mention or discuss cost with me? Why talk to me at all (her initiation) if she has me so written off? Why always point out she can't afford to leave, but "believes" she will never be able to feel like our house is hers again? Then grab another glass of wine and trot off to daughters room for bed. And above is not complaining (although now rereading sounds like it)about doing the necessary chores, its about why would she be so cold. it's not like she came home to a lot of taxing housework and is too tired and mad at me about it. I like seeing her able to relax and enjoy what she does. Why does she seem resentful about everything I do and then runs off to go hide after ridiculing me over a comment? Does any of this make sense?