How do you do a 180 when WAW is moving home for in-house separation?
That and the above posts are driving me insane...
W 53 H 51, S 16, S 21 33 years M 28 DD 3 Feb 11, 2014 S21 and His Fiancée move in with us 8/14 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...965#Post2477965
Dude, I know this is so hard, but stop and relax for a sec. Are you breathing right this minute? do you have food? are you warm enough? Same for the kids? If so, you're actually OK RIGHT NOW. If you think about the future or the past you will suffer. Just stay present and focus on this minute right now. It should help you get through this. Hang in there. We're with you.
Dude, I know this is so hard, but stop and relax for a sec. Are you breathing right this minute? do you have food? are you warm enough? Same for the kids? If so, you're actually OK RIGHT NOW. [/color][b][/b][u][/u]If you think about the future or the past you will suffer. Just stay present and focus on this minute right now. It should help you get through this. Hang in there. We're with you.
I am MR. Would have should have could have...
Also I want to know if I handled this correctly, I don't want to appear manipulative, I am just trying to detach, plus why is WAW so interested in contacting me?
[color:#3366FF]DS15 received a phone call from his mother at 10:45 pm EST (8:45 her time). I was busy cleaning up cat puke! I told him to tell her I was busy if she asked for me. He told her that I needed to sign some documents with her name ( I still have power of attorney), the she asked him to ask me if I got her texts, I said "yes" then she said I was worried something happened , nobody is getting back to me. Apparently he had a VM from her that he never checked ( HES DOING THE 180 better than me!). She said to him , " I don't know why daddy did not tell me he got my messages". Yeesh....
Dude, I know this is so hard, but stop and relax for a sec. Are you breathing right this minute? do you have food? are you warm enough? Same for the kids? If so, you're actually OK RIGHT NOW. If you think about the future or the past you will suffer. Just stay present and focus on this minute right now. It should help you get through this. Hang in there. We're with you.
Probably the best advice I have gotten.
Thanks
W 53 H 51, S 16, S 21 33 years M 28 DD 3 Feb 11, 2014 S21 and His Fiancée move in with us 8/14 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...965#Post2477965
YOu asked the question, do I think you should D your W. That's not for me to answer.
I do think you should let go of her emotionally. We all need to let go of our spouses in that way. They aren't under our control. Have your read about detachment? google livestrong detach lovingly.
You're giving meaning to your WAW contacting you. You don't know why and it's causing you anxiety. There could be many reasons why she's contacting you, why does it matter? There's your work not why is she contacting but rather why does it matter to me?
You can only control you, your thoughts, your responses, your reactions.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
