Really struggling today, had a really emotional day & missing H a lot. It all seems so hopeless, I just keep wondering if I'm imagining all the positive stuff & whether I just need to accept its over & file for divorce....
Remember, this is a marathon. When to quit or move on is an individual choice, but it does get easier. There are folks here that have literally been DBing for years.
You are going to have good days and bad, and that's ok. Just be good to yourself.
Originally Posted By: Upwards
I also cant understand why he values OW friendship more than mine that cuts deep!
A little mind-reading there....you don't know that he values OW more than you.
Couple of things to consider here. First, usually when someone says they are done, they have been thinking about it a LONG time. Once they get to that point, they don't do a 180 easily, or quickly. Second, usually an OP is multiple things....easy, exciting, fun. Very difficult to give that up. And yes, long term, it probably wouldn't be any of those things, but when they are in it, they don't realize that.
So try to have some compassion and understanding for your H. Keep your boundary, but again, go easy on yourself.....this isn't about you as much as it's about him. Let him find his way.
that cuts deep! 