That is how many WAW's in an A will do. They want their separate life from H & kids, but then they want to eat cake now and then and play like a family. But she chose to divide the family.
IMO, you should pass. One, b/c you are struggling to detach. And two, b/c she needs to realize these things come to a halt when you D. At this critical stage, it is important to stick to a tougher side of love b/c if anything you do will influence her, it will be her seeing you confidently moving forward without her.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
