Wonka I have to disagree with you, I wish a WAW like Sandi will stop by around here, for what you can see in many WAW sitchs the Waw never reacted the way expected towards the LBH confronting the affair, they try to hide their tracks and deny everything completelly.
In a public place, there's no way that your spouse would be out of control. She would need to realize that she's under microscope with other eyes around so she may adjust her behavior accordingly.
This is mind reading and a wish of what it would happens, she can react completelly normal by telling him, you are crazy, now its me the one who dont trust you! Leave me alone, confronting a WAW I believe for whats being said (while they are not leaving in the same roof) just make things more complicated.
In regard to your thought that maybe rumors are just rumors, I am going to say that 99.9% of WAS here have OM/OW in the picture. It is highly likely that W is indeed having an A with someone. This brings me to the next point.
This is not demonstrated and untill not demonstrated better to relax on this, accussing his W of this when it might not be true its judging or pre judging and thats the way to lead to irrefutable mistakes.
Even if you dont like it Gogofo she is not living as a married woman now, and you cant assume or confront her, you can set boundaries meanwhile like showing yourself less available, but taking her inventory its very risky and it might cause troubles in the situation you dont need right now.
When the student its ready, the teacher will appear... Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.
