"Did you read the post straight after that where I admitted blaming myself?"
Yes I did. And I also read the parts where in the next sentence you belittled your W. I don't think you even realize you do that. I'm getting a clearer idea of your marriage dynamic. Believe me, you're not the only one with the big age difference we've seen on here.
"I really wish you would get to the point and explain what exactly I need to do here"
Have you really read what I've written? I have explained it to you in detail. Let me put it to you this way. First you have to understand where your W is coming from. You keep denying how she feels at this moment, thinking it's a sudden incident. Next, you have to understand that the age issue is a big one. Much of what you wrote was about how you perceived things. No matter what you may think, your W didn't get to go through the things most normal 20 year olds do.
Plus, since you turned 50, she could be saying to herself "wow my H is pretty old" when she sees friends her age married to spouses closer in age to them. Do you LOOK old? Are you in shape? All that counts.
You might think that's trivial, but right now she is trying to "find herself" because she never had a chance to do that when she was younger. Simple as that.
You are looking for a magic bullet or a special piece of advice that will make your W immediately come back to you. It doesn't work that way.
Your personal issues, your seeing her as not your "intellectual equal", your not seeing to her needs all add up to help cause her current decision. It may not seem fair TO YOU but that's how she sees things now.
Your W wants to be free which is something she never got to do when she was younger. You can't keep trying to control that.
What have YOU done to actually change? Have you done things to fix yourself? Right now that's all you can do and take care of your kids. So how have YOU changed? If you don't, then why should she come back to the same situation now that caused her to leave in the first place?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
