Did you read the post straight after that where I admitted blaming myself? If I'm in denial its because I haven't had anything explained to me. I'm willing to shoulder my part in this but she has yet to explain exactly why she left. I have accepted that this must have been building up but she showed absolutely no signs of it leading to the BD. She throws out small irrelevant reasons for why she left, bearing in mind that initially when I discovered the affair she said she knew the difference between love and lust and that she didn't want to end our marriage. Having a higher level of intelligence than a partner isn't something that I feel would prevent a good relationship. It was something that we were both aware of but it didn't matter a jot to me. I loved her and still do It doesn't mean at all that I treated her less because of it, it was irrelevant to me and I suppose my friends are bringing it up now to help me try and accept that she has gone and try to help me move on. I really wish you would get to the point and explain what exactly I need to do here because all I see is criticism of me and some belief that I am in denial. please explain it to me because I fail to see what the point is.
