"She was a very mature 19 year old when we met and our relationship was supported by everyone in our lives as they regarded us as a couple very much in love and happy together."
She may have seemed "mature" but as an older man, you should know that growth and maturity comes with time. She missed out on experiences that normal 20 year olds go through. Go back and look at what you were like in your 20s and what the women were like at that age. They all matured over time.
"I have really examined myself over the past few months and tried to understand how this could have happened so suddenly."
That's what you don't understand. It doesn't happen "suddenly". It's an accumulation of many factors that eventually reach a tipping point. Again, you're only seeing things through your eyes and not your W's.
"in the course of that I have accepted that there were lots of things I wasn't aware of and that I now wish I had paid more attention to."
Yes this wasn't an overnight decision for her.
"But I resent your suggestion that I treated her like a child because that simply was not the case. "
Really? I believe you did say this ... ""There certainly was a big gap in our levels of intelligence (I hope this doesn't come across as being arrogant) and it is something that is really becoming obvious in what is happening at the moment. My closest friends have said that they wonder what we ever talked about as our interests are different in lots of different areas and she definitely doesn't think in the same depth as I do.""
A big part of you is in denial. Until you start understanding that, you aren't going to be able to get your W back.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
