These open marriages seldom work out. The ones I have witnessed failed because the H very delicately, and persuasively, introduced the idea. And.....the W is the one who "fell in love.." and split. Sometimes people have trouble seeing The Big Picture along with Unintended Consequences.
I think you are doing great! It is very impressive that you acted decisively. You know it was a mistake and you made a course correction in the best interests of you and your kids.
The Separation Agreement is invaluable to protect against the financial annihilation that so often occurs when these WAS are allowed to just run wild. I'm not kidding; LBS are expected to just allow the WAS to "explore the space. Really....explore the space..." Yeah, well...that can be done on someone else's dime.
