Crimson......still just checkin' in.

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There is no way she is going to open to the idea of owning her "stuff". She still blames me for things and limits her responsibility in the demise to "I allowed you to treat me that way".

This is you wanting her to change and this is what causes the tension in you.

Let go of needing her to change and see her as who she is. I don't think people change so much during marriage but rather the pretenses drop and we become more of who we really are.

You're blaming her, she's blaming you. You can only fix you. Your son is picking up on your sadness, our children learn about emotions from us from the moment of birth, that's the way they begin to navigate the larger world.

So what can you do to manage that sadness?