One year in but a newbie

[bluesgal]

I agree with MrBond that she probably doesn't even realize what she's doing and why it hurts/annoys you. I have been so shocked to see how wrapped up my H is in his own little MLC world that he has no idea how rude he can be.

I say, don't respond immediately, but when you do, approach her calmly and matter of fact. Ex-I would appreciate it if you would contact me regarding the kids at (phone #) Explain briefly that it helps to keep things running smoothly. As far as only contacting when she needs something: I don't know that calling her on it will accomplish anything but anger on her part.