W continues to live with OM - what to do?

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Hi Longrun I just read all your posts and they break my heart.

My wife had an EA that I am not sure when it went PA. We knew each other 30 years when it started as of today it is 32 years and in June we will have been married 28. My WAW says many of the same things yours did. My WAW also fell for OM who is a Tour Guide and what she likes is his life and her new found attraction to our religion and his culture. They are calling his home 6000 miles away their apartment.

The only difference is she stopped the Collaborative Divorce to move back into our home for an in-home seperation for financial reasons. While she is still with the OM (CAKE EATER)

Her original plan was to hide the affair and to stay with me until S-15 Graduated HS. But the third time he was visiting after I though we were OK, I confronted and she bolted. Claimed he convinced her I would hurt her. Well if so, why is she coming home.

I really want to R, I just don't know how to handle her moving home. When I saw her favorite teddy was gone that she claimed she bought for me, I was nauseous. I should have thrown it out. I believe she took it to surprise him on his last day in the USA next Wed. They actually went to his country for 14 days and her Birthday in March and now are visiting friends of his in another state that are supporting the Affair and hate me.

I guess I am telling you this to tell you I feel your pain. There are days that I don't want to R, and then days I fear if we do it wont last and she will return to him again.

How are you feeling these days? Did you have the same ups and downs? Are you feeling ready to move on?

I really felt for you when I read your thread. I was hoping it said you were back together...I am soo sooo soooooooooo Sorry for you.

Take Good Care!!