H moving out tomorrow

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emailed exH yesterday to let him know that the joint cc is paid off and closed and also gave him the amount for the health insurance payment he owes me (until he's off). Mentioned that I presumed the d papers would be mailed to me and that I can't refi or take him off the insurance without them. He knows this because I mentioned it before but thought I'd remind him. He responded that he HAD the papers when he came over last Friday (he was picking up the cat to have her put down) but he "didn't feel the timing was right". WTH? That irritated me a lot because he was THERE and had them and knew I needed them to finish up stuff. How could the timing not be right? We're divorced now, just give them to me already. I didn't say that, I just responded with Sunday works best for me, he'll come over then and give me the check and the papers. I wondered if I should share that "I feel ______ when you _____ (insert behavior here) just so he knows how I feel. Then I thought it doesn't matter how I feel because he doesn't care anyway. As long as I get the papers Sunday then I can just be patient and let it go. It is just frustrating dealing with that because I don't understand the logic behind it, the timing wasn't right? When is the timing right for d papers anyway plus it's already done so it's not like I was going to raise a fuss or break down when he gives me the papers. I just shake my head and wonder sometimes, I guess I think too much and should just stop wondering because none of it makes sense anyway. He wanted this D so quickly I would have thought he could have just handed them over while he was here already. Once I get him off the insurance and refi the house then I won't have to see him anymore. I don't like feeling angry and bitter and am trying to work through that, I know it takes time. This kind of thing though doesn't help. I'm cutting back on my smoking now and that is going ok, at least it is something I'm in control of. That's probably why I get angry about this little thing because I know it's out of my control. Going out with a girlfriend tonight which is nice just to do something different and part of GAL. I have no expectations for his visit Sunday, although I pretty much know it will be like the previous visits which is him sitting there and not really saying much. Not sure if he feels like he has to stay or what. Really he can just drop it off and go on his way. I guess he likes to see if things are the same at the house, I know, I know, stop trying to mind read.