Thanks for the suggestions Starsky. H and I had another R conversation last night and I think I handled things okay.
First, we talked about H changing his phone number. He hesitated at first mentioning it was his business phone, he's had the same number for years, he doesn't want to lose his business contacts, etc. I told him it was his decision but it leaves the door open for OW to contact him again and how he handles that could be a determining factor on how our M progresses. A few moments of silence then H said he was going to call the carrier to find out what he needs to do to keep his contacts and get a new number.
Secondly,(expressed w/love & kindness yet firm)I explained to H that because of the recent incidents, resuming life as is will not be as easy. Both of us will need to work on the R and He will need to show acts of continued commitment. I told him that I appreciate all of the reassuring comments however I will need to see these changes through his actions on a consistent basis. He said that he understood and that is what his plans to.
The rest remains to be seen.
Excellent!!!
I'm 99% sure there are ways to transfer over his contacts, either via the cloud or the SIM card. That data doesn't only exist in the phone itself.
He could also ask about call BLOCKING, but let him try to get this done first, as this would be preferable since OW could also call him from a different # to avoid the call-block.
