"It doesn't matter how great of a H you were, or are. W's perspective right now is that you are not. That's reality for her, and you'll be spinning your wheels until you accept it. You can't convince her otherwise, so please don't try."

I'd like to clarify this statement. No conversation you have with W will change her present perception. Pleading your case will cause her to dig in.

But over time, your consistent actions can have an effect. This is why you work on yourself. She will notice in time.

Also, I see like my W, your's claims she doesn't have those "in love" feelings for you. This will take even longer to return. No quick fixes for this. Bust On!

M: A really long time.
Crisis: 5 years.
She's still worth it.

Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl